Anxiety and Depression Healing

What is Personal Healing?

Click to read Chapter 9: Relationships, Anxiety, and Depression of the e-book published September, 2012, Healing Personal Depression & Anxiety For Good:  The Only Self-Help Solution You'll Ever Need

A dedication to seeking the truth about oneself is a necessary prerequisite. Healing is a cooperative process of character structure change between a well trained and experienced therapist and a person dedicated to discovering their deeply personal truth. The aim or end goal is the establishment of a greater portion of pleasurable vs. painful experiences, within and with relationships.

Healing is not suppressing symptoms. Suppression or the redirecting of symptoms is what one finds in the traditional biopsychiatric and traditional cognitive-behavioral psychological approaches.

Anxiety is a valuable reaction of our organism to the environment or our thoughts about the environment. Anxiety need not be numbed by drugs or intoxicating substances, legal or not.

The process of healing increases our physical and psychological ability to tolerate anxiety and the experiences that arouse anxiety. The increased tolerance equals less disturbance and an enhanced ability to function in relationships and life, in general.

Thinking and experiencing becomes sharper without being fowled by anxiety. There is a point in the healing process where we become aware of and are able to let go of the attachment to the unconscious Other to the point where choices become truly one's own. A person begins to pursue their own true interests in life, free of anxiety, guilt, or the pressure of the expectations of parents, spouses and others, even unconscious others. The constrictions that impeded creativity or the achieving of one's full potential in life become figments of the past. When healing is near completion we see an increased ability to develop natural, rational and effective strategies that enable moving through the various stuck-points or impasses impeding relationships, creativity and work, with ease. There is a noticeable increase in the ability to physically relax, when alone and when with others.

The development of the ability to emotionally protect oneself when necessary, but let down the protections when not needed, manifests in relationships evolving deeper intimacies.

When nearing completion of therapy, there is a distinct change in general emotional demeanor and how one reacts to influences from the environment. A commitment to finishing emotional business in respectful ways is a general consequence, as opposed to either ignoring it, engaging in sarcasm, or being deceitful by omission. A noticeable change in the quality of relationships with others is highlighted. For example, in one who was previously polygamous, serial monogamy becomes the rule rather than the exception. An increased sensitivity to other's feelings is noted. The healthy character type understands and navigates through the world with a rational perspective. Communications become more direct,  devoid of half truths and lies by omission.

The personal understanding of anxiety and related issues emerge in the healing process.

As the character changes or is restructured, an enhanced ability to feel and see other's "truth" emerges. When no longer contaminated by anxiety or past unfinished emotional situations, an ability emerges to "see" the character structures of others exactly as they are without externalizing an internal imago.

It as if a smudge on the prism through which we see and interact with the world was removed.

Detailed healing strategies for anxiety, post traumatic stress, psychosis, depression, and obsessive compulsive problems can be found in Healing Personal Psychology, either in the Hard Cover or the digital edition or e-book.

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Jasenn Zaejian, Ph.D. 949-371-3997